January 23, 2019
I’ve never been much of a reader. I think the last time I read a book cover to cover was when Gone Girl was making the rounds. But for whatever
The challenge with starting this book club was picking a book that I could read and not get bored. I wanted a book that would share a positive message and set the tone for the book club from here on out. That was the challenge until I came across Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis.
The concept of the book is that Rachel shares 20 lies that she believed during her life and how she overcame them. The topics range from weight, relationships, parenthood, and even drinking. There’s even a chapter called I’m going to marry Matt Damon, and I think its safe to say that we have all thought at one time or another we would marry a celebrity. Zach from Hanson, I’m looking at you!
There were three chapters that really stuck out to me. Don’t get me wrong, this book is filled with tons of ‘omg, me too!’ moments, but these three chapters spoke to me on a really personal level. At one point I had tears in my eyes because the struggle that Rachel wrote about was so much like one I had experienced not that long ago.
I have told myself this lie too many times to count! I never think twice about putting stuff off until the next day, and it always seemed like self care was the first to get cut. Rachel brings up a really good point in this chapter, you most likely wouldn’t cancel an appointment with someone else last minute, so why cancel on yourself?
We’re all guilty of thinking that we should be further along in life. That everyone is running laps around us while we’re stuck in the same spot. I second Rachel when she calls bull crap in this chapter. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no better. For about a five year period I was obsessed with the idea that I needed to be further along in life.
Everyone I saw on social media was living an amazing life, a life that I wanted, and I was stuck. Then it hit me, why the hell am I comparing myself to people on social media? Would I feel this way if I didn’t have social media? Most likely not.
The challenge is realizing that we all go at our own pace in life. Whenever I have a hard time with this I think about what my dad use to say “You just have to go with the flow.” So I do… or try to at least.
I found this chapter really interesting. To sum it up quickly, this chapter talks about how women tend to grow up thinking that we need to downplay our accomplishments or make ourselves smaller. I don’t know how many times I’ve acted like my accomplishments weren’t as awesome as they were. I felt like I couldn’t take up space and shout “HEY EVERYONE!
I felt like if people didn’t know my dreams, they couldn’t judge me for them. I’ve made myself smaller because I thought people would think my goal of being a full-time blogger was silly. I made myself smaller to fit into other peoples ideas of what I needed to be.
At the end of this chapter, Rachel talks about the willingness to offend. How you should embrace the idea that you aren’t going to be able to please everyone. You need to stop caring what everyone else thinks and stop getting in your own way. What others think of you and what your doing is none of your business!
There are a few things in this book that I found slightly off-putting. Not so much that I didn’t enjoy the book as a whole, but enough that I thought they were worth mentioning.
The first con was the Christian undertone of the book. I’ll admit that I didn’t know anything about Rachel Hollis before buying the book. She is very open about her faith, which is fine! I just personally believe that religion has a time and a place, and in my eyes, a few of the books topics don’t need to include God.
In the chapter I Am Defined By My Weight, Rachel says “Does your Creator love you as you are? Yes! Be he gave you a body with all its strength, and even its weaknesses, as a gift. It is an offense to your soul to continue to treat yourself so badly.”
Weight isn’t a black and white topic, there are so many gray areas involved. It doesn’t just happen because you aren’t taking care of yourself. There are countless reasons a person gains weight. Throwing God into the mix and saying that he finds it offensive if you gain weight is ridiculous to me. I’m already hard enough on myself about my weight, I don’t need to also think about how I’m offending God too.
*I also feel like if there was a God he would care more about your heart and the type of person you are, not your weight.*
The second one is from the chapter I’m Bad At Sex. She says “Pornography, for example, is extremely damaging to both the consumer and the people being used as objects for your lust.” In my humble opinion, this type of thinking is very closed minded and naive. Yes, I understand that in certain relationships porn can be a problem, but there’s also a lot of couples that use porn to spice things up. Are those couple in the wrong for using that tool in their sex lives? Absolutely not!
I’m actually friends with a few women who work as cam models and the stereotype that is being shared in this book doesn’t represent them at all. Most of them are college graduates who are doing sex work because it allows them to
Rachel is allowed to not like porn and not use it in her relationship. Different strokes for different folks. But in 2019 can we stop acting like every woman (and I specify women because men are rarely seen as the victims) who works in the sex industry are doing it against their will. Some women find sex work empowering, and
Despite the few cons I have about the book, I really did enjoy reading Girl, Wash Your Face as a whole. Rachel covers each topic with humor and writes in a way that makes you feel like she is talking directly to you. I lost count of how many times I reread a part to Michael and pointed out how Rachel and I went through similar struggles.
I would honestly recommend that every woman read this. So many of us share the same experiences, have the same doubts, and worry about the same little things. This book is an excellent reminder that no matter what we go through we aren’t alone. Sometimes we just need a reminder to take a step back and wash our face.
Have you read Girl, Wash Your Face yet? I would love to hear all of your thoughts on it. Good. Bad. Or even if they go against everything I said. I want these book club posts to be a discussion, so let’s discuss!
February’s book is How To Be An Overnight Success by Maria Hatzistefanis. Make sure to keep an eye out for the next book club post!